Let AI draft, summarize and suggest who to contact, but never let it handle your inner circle, emotional messages, introductions, or who deserves your attention.
The idea
AI can already save you real time on your relationships. Most people haven't decided what it's allowed to do on their behalf, and that gap will eventually cost them something they can't get back. Four rules are worth setting now. The test behind all of them, the presence test: before AI handles any outreach, am I present in this, or am I just signing off on it? Send something AI wrote without being in it and you're running a simulation of the relationship. It can feel fine for a while. You haven't lost touch, technically. You also haven't really talked.
How to do it
Your inner circle hears from you. Your closest people know how you write. Let AI draft, then read it, make it sound like you, and send it yourself.
Emotional messages get your own reply. When someone shares a health scare or a business falling apart, the five minutes you spend figuring out what to say is the relationship.
You write your own introductions. AI can spot a match. The specific reason these two should meet has to come from you. A lazy intro is worse than no intro.
You decide who gets your attention. Let AI surface people you've lost touch with, or argue someone belongs in your A sphere. The call stays yours.
Example
For much of my career an executive assistant sometimes wrote emails as me, and every so often someone would reply, "Did Zvi actually write this?" I'd jump in personally, sometimes with a text, to confirm it was me. Now AI has everyone asking that question.
Relatable: Whiz in Relatable will draft an email grounded in what you know about the person. Editing it into your own voice and hitting Send stays your job. How-to: Draft an email with Whiz, What Whiz can do for you.
Related frameworks
Prove You're Human: Be specific, switch channels, add "no need to respond," and keep it short. AI over-explains; humans get to the point.
Efficient vs. Effective: AI and smart tools make you efficient. Only making the time and pressing Send makes you effective with your relationships.
The Double Opt-In Introduction: Ask both people before connecting them, give a specific reason, and only make introductions both would thank you for.
The Pre-Send Checklist: Before you send, ask what you want them to feel, whether you need a reply, how you'd react getting it, and whether you'd be proud passing them in the hall.