Time-Shift Your Congratulations

staying in touch · tactic

When someone changes jobs, send the congrats and then add the notes nobody else sends, one month in and again at one year.

The idea

LinkedIn made congratulating someone on a new job a one-tap push notification, and that lowered what a congrats is worth. Everyone sends one. So don't stop there: move part of your message in time, with a note a month later and another at the one-year mark asking how the role is going.

How to do it

  1. When you spot the news, note the start date.
  2. Send your congratulations as usual.
  3. Set a reminder for one month out. Ask how it's really going.
  4. Set another for the one-year mark.
  5. For people who matter a lot, keep going: in the book I suggest a note at five years too.

Example

In the book I describe the program I'd drop people into whenever I noticed a new job: a check-in about a month after asking how the first month went, a reminder to call at the one-year mark to celebrate them making it a year, and even a nudge at five years joking that they must be running the place by now.

Script

Watch out for

Sources

Relatable: Relatable flags job changes from LinkedIn, which is a good cue to set a reminder for a month out. How-to: Someone changed jobs, Set and manage reminders.

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Read next

By Zvi Band. Newsletter: Your Network Starts with You. Book: Success Is in Your Sphere.